Women learn the lesson early: Coveting money is greedy. Hustling for it is unladylike. Talking about it is crass.

And so they develop a quiet contract: I’ll do what it takes to get money, but I don’t want to have to think about it. Maybe an extravagant purchase gets chalked up as a necessity. A few twenties disappear from the husband’s wallet while he’s in the shower. A raise goes unrequested. A looming debt gets pushed aside, just for the moment…